What kind of shadow do you cast?

When day breaks and the clouds are out we know it’s going to be a dark and gloomy day. But we know that behind those clouds, are a beautiful sun waiting to show itself at a moment’s notice (especially in Melbourne). We as people are no exemption to this rule, sometimes behind our ‘resting bitch face’, lies a beautiful inviting persona wanting to jump out and express itself on the outside.

Sometimes we see ourselves in a different light than how others perceive us.

We often wish that we could stand outside of ourselves and see what we really are emitting.

Are you that caring charismatic and knowledgeable leader you want to be? Or are you truly that confident know it all show off that comes across conceited and such a vulgar self-centered human? We all know the one that I’m taking about. You know…that guy, the one you cancel plans when you hear they are coming, or at work, everyone calls in sick for.

I’ve said it before, we are our harshest critiques. We put ourselves down without anyone’s words. Sometimes all it takes is someone’s eyes to pass us and we suddenly question what we’ve done wrong to make them judge us.

Even though they may simply be looking at the door frame behind you, admiring the creativity and be deep in thought about their finances and how they can’t afford to finish renovating because of that phone bill their child decided to rack up three months ago.

Truth is you don’t know what others are truly thinking. And that’s not your concern.

Your concern should be what shadow you cast. When people look at you, do they feel inspired or threatened? Interested or challenged?
 

Humility in your successes can change most people’s perspective of you. 

In my life, I have been judged by even those closest to me about my successes.

Some even think I’ve been given things on a silver platter. Truth is I’ve worked damn hard to stand proud of my accomplishments, but what I’m always prouder of, is when I’m able to bring others around me into that success. Share my insights, my processes and my plans to allow others the best chance to succeed in their own endeavors.

Why? Because success isn’t permanent. The bar is always moving. It’s imperative to not become complacent, and nurture others’ success as you would your own.

Much like a teacher, nothing brings you more joy than when a student surpasses the expectations set out for them, and really shines.

So, I challenge you, think about someone you despise that has done well for themselves. If their shadow was a positive one, would you follow them instead of ignoring them? Have you taken the time to understand their hardships and battles to get them to where they are today? If not, then it’s not for you to judge.

When you’re having a tough one and not emitting the shadow you would like, take a step back and reset yourself. Think about your facial expressions and your mood. If you caught eyes with yourself, would you feel welcomed to your reflection?

Changing your mood can be difficult, but it starts with a smile and the rest falls into place.

You can do more damage ignoring your shadow than confronting it.

#Natsperspective