*Calling myself out here*

For the singles out there (and not so single), sometimes we take to social media to seek validation. In turn, to receive this, we often display the highlight reel, masking what we really are enduring internally. It may not be intentional, but for some, it’s become second nature for a quick/cheap endorphin hit, instead of actually processing what’s really happening in life.

I can confidently say that I am a big culprit of this diversion tactic.

It’s an initiative to counter the negativity of either a situation, current reality, or matters of the heart. At least, until we actually have the emotional capacity and strength to process, dissect, and rationalise the situation at hand.

Sometimes things aren’t going as well as we had hoped. 

Perhaps you’re realising what once seemed like lifelong friendships, are crumbling beneath you. Perhaps that date didn’t go as well as well as you initially thought. Perhaps you’re not getting the attention in the healthy form that you are craving.

Reality is, sometimes, friendships aren’t supposed to last. Friendships require nurture, equal parts respect, and equal parts understanding. Lack those things, and it crumbles over time. Honesty is the only key to longevity.

Sometimes in dating we want to impress someone so much that we forget our moral foundations, to fill an intimate or emotional craving. That date wasn’t for you. Dating requires honesty. To both yourself and your counterpart. 

Don’t try to be anything other than who you are. You go against that, and the cracks present themselves very quickly. And if you think perhaps you’ve noticed a red flag, or that they aren’t giving you at the very least, what you are giving them, then the balance is tipped, and it’s only a matter of time before it spills into disaster. Be irrevocably yourself, and if that doesn’t align with them, then it’s not your fault, or theirs. It’s just not a match. 

Sometimes, that post/story gives you a quick high, only to come crashing down faster that it elevated. And it also creates this false image that things are always on the positive side.
In this situation, all I can say (or should learn better), is that silence speaks volumes.

I’m far from perfect. And to be honest, it’s not something I ever want to be or strive for.

But I do want to exude reality. In its rawest, honest, and blunt form.

And if that’s not for you, then carry on, because reality is harsh, tough, full of facades.

Share the good times and reach out when you need to process the not so good times.

Sometimes we feel quite alone in our feelings, but I promise you that it ends when we share. Be courageous and open up. Talk about what’s not going well, call out bad behaviour, write about it, heck, message me and vent! Just don’t sit alone and dwell in the shadows when there’s light available.

We all wear masks, but what would the world look like if we were true to ourselves, and allowed others to see EXACTLY who we are?

#unmask

#Natsperspective